WARNING - RED FLAGS

As a relationship begins, once you observe a red flag(s) run in the other direction; or if you are unsure test the waters by addressing the concerning behavior/issue and observe the reaction you receive. If it is defensive, angry, accusatory, dismissive or manipulative be sure more red flags will be raised and abuse is just under the surface awaiting your capture. No matter how flattering, seemingly loving, loyal or adoring the person appears to be A RED FLAG IS A RED FLAG IS A RED FLAG regardless of how you or the abuser justify it.

NEVER DENY RED FLAGS OR YOU WILL BECOME A VICTIM TO THEM.

Red Flags

  • Barely know the person...Do not count months/years of being an acquaintance as truly knowing someone, including online 'friend' or knowing of someone through mutual friends or acquaintances.
  • They declare great/special love for you in brief period of time.
  • You are the only one who understands them.
  • The only one worthy of their love.
  • Convince you that they are the only one that truly understands you. 
  • Feel as if you have known them all your life after only brief period of time (soul mate scenario)
  • God's made you for them and them for you (a match made in heaven).
  • Together you will change the world.
  • They start making all the major (and sometimes minor) plans for all areas of your life; e.g., where to live, type of work/career, marriage dates, etc., in a overwhelming tsunami of emotion and passion.
  • You feel you are not allowed to ask certain questions or make comments about particular issues without a negative or aggressive.
  • Loneliness draws you to settle for whatever is being offered.
  • They can't live without you (but remember they have spent a lifetime without you and somehow survived).
  • Time will always tell.....give it time.