NO EXCUSE FOR ABUSE
D.A.R.E. (DOMESTIC ABUSE RECOVERY ESSENTIALS)
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WHAT IS DOMESTIC ABUSE?
At its heart, domestic abuse is power and control of one person over another. This is achieved by a myriad of methods including mind control, intimidation, identity theft, fear, assault, etc.
What it isn't...
- Domestic abuse is not an excuse because of someone else's harsh, unfair or violent childhood;nor for a bad day at work, or financial struggles, etc.
- Domestic abuse is not your fault
- Domestic abuse is not just physical violence, although it often includes this. It can be exercised through verbal, emotional, spiritual and financial means as well as by assault.
- Domestic abuse is not based on an equal balance of power; for one partner is afraid of the other.
- Domestic abuse is an insidious, entangled, sticky product of a society that ignores the needs of its more vulnerable citizens and often justifies the abuser
- Domestic abuse is never deserved!
LOVE DOES NOT ABUSE
Domestic Abuse has no barriers or favorites It transgresses all social classes, wealth, education, ethnicity, religion and culture.
The stereotypical model of poorly educated, working-class unemployed, drinker is far too simplistic.
Education, culture or class cannot protect one from domestic abuse; although it may protect the abuser because of their financial ability to access the legal system, or conceal abuse under a cloak of respectability.
Domestic abuse effects all strata of society; although some demographics are more represented than others. This by no means diminishes anyone's suffering from domestic abuse, nor should it be used to deny or hide the truth about this tragedy.
Abuse is abuse is abuse regardless of income, status, education, ethnicity or any other condition.
THE MOTIVATION FOR ABUSE IS CONTROL AND POWER
A DESIRE FOR CONTROL AND POWER IS FOUNDATIONAL TO DOMESTIC ABUSE. THIS MAY BE DISGUISED AS LOVE INITIALLY; AND LATER ATTRIBUTED TO BEING YOUR FAULT.
But love does not abuse. In domestic abuse your heart is used against you. This often is why women remain in domestic abuse. What you may call love, the abuser calls power and control. Once you realize this truth, the truth will set you free.
A key understanding to grasp is:
"I don’t deserve to be abused."
Realizing you don't have to suffer or accept abuse is deeply liberating. From this realization, we step into the process of living in freedom.
But this cannot occur while abuse continues because the nature of abuse is its disguise of fault-finding, blaming and shaming the one suffering the abuse.
Freedom can be hard won, but well worth it for you and your children because Love does Not Abuse!!!
